5 Tips For Parents
What Books, DVDs, CDs, Curriculum Should I Buy to Teach My Child with Challenges?
Last night we had the privilege of chatting with many moms and dads who are like you. They, too, are striving to be the best parents they possibly can be. We were impressed to see that they attended a parenting seminar presented by Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller of the National Center for Biblical Parenting. As they received excellent information on heart based parenting, they were mulling over how to implement what they were hearing for their children who have some challenges. That is always the dilemma, isn't it? How can this be applied to my child?
One mom asked which of the materials that were available for sale would be best for a child with multiple special needs. She began to describe her child. We love giving an ear to parents who want to talk about their children for many reasons. One of those reasons is that there aren't many folks who care to listen. When parents of children with challenges get to chat, new understanding comes to them. This mom so wants to parent her child from the heart and she so wants to brainstorm exactly how to do just that. What was our answer? We realized a long time ago that the question really isn't always what book, curriculum, video, CD, etc. is best -- the question really is HOW can I use what is available to me with MY child? Below are five tips (suggestions) on what to consider when purchasing materials to use to work with your child with challenges.
The information Scott and Joanne gave, if implemented, is life changing. It was all about HONOR. The books they write and the materials they have available are really the finest we have ever seen if you are looking to hone in your parenting skills. You want to have the opportunity to parent the heart and teach all about honor to your child with challenges just as much as you want to do that for your typically developing children, right? Good, so here are some tips to consider for making decisions regarding purchasing either the materials from Scott and Joanne or really anything you want to use to teach your child something:
1. The Child's Understanding Level: THE most important concept to delve into is: Where is my child's understanding? What do I mean by that? Let's not go by chronological age to answer this question. Some six years olds are only able to process around the two year level and some six year olds are processing well over most six year olds. Some teens are processing like an elementary school aged child and some are well into adulthood with their processing. The piece of the puzzle that may be helpful in determining this -- is knowing how to determine your child's sequential processing. Every parent can be taught how to do this. Once you know the current sequential processing of your child, you can take the material (books, curriculum, CDs, DVDs, etc.) and teach it to the child's level. You can also do specific and very doable exercises at home with your child to increase their sequential processing.
2. Mindset: Once you know about sequential processing for your child (typical or challenged), the next thing to consider is this: How receptive is my child to learning from me? Is there resistance? Does my child have wrong information in his thinking that is keeping him from being teachable? Did you know that there are tools you can use to help impart truth to your child without losing your mind?
3. Storage and Accessibility in the Brain: How is the storage in your child's brain? When your child hears something, sees something, tastes something, feels something, or smells something, where does that information go? Is it organized? Is it readily accessible? Can he or she grab it and use it quickly? Sometimes our child's brain is disorganized. It can be difficult for your child to take in the things you are teaching and to have it stored properly. When it is not stored properly, it is really hard to find it. Did you know that you can do things at home with your child to help the brain to grab information, store it efficiently, and then give easy access to your child?
4. Your Own Teaching Style - Another thing to consider when using materials to teach your child is what is your learning style? What is your teaching style? You first have to process the material before you can teach it to your child. Think about how you do that and find material that helps you do that easier.
5. Keep It Fun and Exciting. No one likes to listen to a boring teacher. Considering who your child is and keeping in mind his or her capabilities is important for an enjoyable teaching/learning experience. It may mean that you need to teach short snippets at a time. Perhaps your child loves to be hands on. How can you fit the material to make that available to him? Find material that you enjoy and make it a wonderful experience for all. Learning doesn't have to be boring. Make it fun.
If you would like to learn more about sequential processing, mindset tools, and storage and accessibility in your child's brain, we invite you to join us for our monthly webinars, take a look at the classes available on our products page, and also consider private coaching with us. If you want to know more about our private coaching, check out the information about our Get Acquainted Calls: http://marchforthfamily.com/GAC
Tom and Julie Meekins