Are You Compassionate or Judgmental
to "Out of the Box" Children and Their Parents?
by Julie Meekins
Today we had the opportunity to attend an event for homeschoolers to swap and sell supplies, books, etc. no longer needed. Since we are down to one homeschooler and she is a high school senior, we decided to join the ranks and sell off unneeded supplies.
As we interacted with the moms and dads who came to our table to look for treasures for their families, we had the wonderful privilege of chatting with some of them and listening to their stories.
My eyes welled up in tears and my heart was moved on more than one occasion as several of these parents shared the pain and heartache of seeing their children not supported in their previous schooling setting.
The theme running through more than one story today was lack of understanding and judgmental communication regarding these children and their parents by other adults in their world. One shared that she knew there was something "off" with her child early on in kindergarten but was told year after year -- he's fine. A dad shared how a coach didn't understand how his son's asthma can keep a very talented and athletic child from doing his best sometimes. There would be no compromise. A mom and dad shared how their child was born prematurely and struggled year after year in the academic world and now at the age of thirteen they realize the "system" is not the best place for him.
I am not here to bash public schools or private schools or teachers or principals or boards of education. We all know they have daunting tasks. I am not here to persuade parents to educate their children one way or another.
What I would like to do is to bring attention to the precious children who are experiencing challenges: learning, developmental, behavioral, health, etc. and the brokenhearted and frazzled parents who are raising them.
My hat is off to those parents who advocate for their children day after exhausting day with every fiber of their being and continually pick themselves up off the ground and brush themselves off after yet another defeating blow of discouragement. And for the sake of the children they love -- they get ready for battle once again.
I know I am preaching to the choir with you, my faithful readers, because you already know there are no cookie cutter kids and you already have compassion for the "out of the box" kids. You may even be raising one.
Perhaps you can leave this message lying around or forward it on or pass it out into social media for others to see. Maybe this message will make its way to a heart ready to change the way they communicate to these kids and their parents. Maybe what happened to the Grinch could happen to them...
"It could be, perhaps, that his shoes were too tight.
It could be his head wasn't screwed on just right.
But I think that the most likely reason of all
May have been that his heart was two sizes too small."
"And what happened then...? Well...in Who-ville they say
That the Grinch's small heart grew three sizes that day!" *
Maybe there's someone out there who just needs to read this, whose awareness will be raised, and maybe whose heart will grow, like the Grinch, three sizes one day and who will begin a new way to extend compassion, support, encouragement and a team attitude to "out of the box" children and their amazing parents. If one child and his or her parents could feel the effect of that change from a judgmental and unsupportive and maybe even destructive someone in their world, this writing would have been totally worth every minute it took to type it out.
And if you are that parent and you want support, we would love to offer you a complimentary Get Acquainted Call. Just email us at MarchForthFamily@gmail.com. Come and visit us at www.MarchForthFamily.com.
*How the Grinch Stole Christmas! (1966), is an animated television show directed by Chuck Jones and Ben Washam, based on the book by Dr. Seuss, with additional story by Bob Ogle and Irv Spector.