One Simple Tip to a Calmer Kid
Jumping Jacks and Dance Breaks
Sometimes our kids get themselves in a tizzy.
Lots of things cause this chaos to well up within them.
- Frustration over homework they do not understand.
- Siblings who are making them crazy.
- Overwhelm with simple chores.
- The answer “no” from someone in authority.
- Trying to navigate an adult world with child understanding.
- And much more.
This puts our children into an emotional state.
When we, as humans, are super emotional, it is next to impossible to access reasoning and analytical thinking.
No matter how much reasoning we attempt with a child in this state (or an adult for that matter), we probably will not get very far.
So what can we do?
Really…or some other physical activity like a dance break or running an obstacle course.
We want to give our kids the opportunity to get back in the reasoning side of the brain. Strategic physical activity does that and also facilitates other brain work.
Sometimes we would be helping our children with school work or trying to teach a life skill and they were just not getting it. Instead of pushing that boulder uphill, we went into “jumping jack” mode. Usually 10 jumping jacks would do it. Sometimes 5 jumping jacks would do it.
When our children were overly emotional, we would turn on a peppy song and then go into “dance break” mode. Just one song would usually get them in a better place to reason.
Jumping jack mode or dance break mode usually put the kids in a better position to complete the task at hand.
It really is amazing to see the shift that takes place from inattention, confusion, or emotional upset to being able to attend or reason.
It is not their fault. They are not being defiant if they are super emotional and cannot do what you ask. It is all about the brain and the way it works.
These two very simple steps put everyone in a better frame of mind time and time again.
You can get creative and figure out other physical things that may be helpful to your particular child. Some ideas may be:
- Create an obstacle course where they
- run some,
- crawl some,
- jump some,
- swing some,
- For older kids, have them chop wood for a short period of time.
- Swing on the swings for a little bit.
- Climb the monkey bars.
- Hop on one foot.
- Hoola hoop
- Jump on a pogo stick
You get the idea.
So, there you have it: Your Simple Tip to a Calmer Kid today!
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With much love,
Tom and Julie
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